You won't lose a thing, asking for help
Ask for help, and you'll find that others, from those who love you to perfect strangers, will help carry you on. This is how the world works.
We carry each other's burdens. Helping each other should be a normal part of how we live together in the world. We are built for integration, not isolation. Helping each other and being there for one another is how we flow with the natural energies of the Divine.
So, ask for help.
And then, this might be even harder for you,
accept it.
The writer of Hebrews said:
"So let's walk right up to him and get what he is so ready to give. Take the mercy, accept the help." *
In his book, Matthew quoted Jesus as saying:
"Accepting someone's help is as good as giving someone help. This is a large work I've called you into, but don't be overwhelmed by it. It's best to start small. Give a cool cup of water to someone who is thirsty, for instance. The smallest act of giving or receiving makes you a true apprentice. You won't lose out on a thing." *
It's not just giving that puts you in the flow of Christ consciousness, it's receiving, too. Giving and receiving isn't so much the things you do, but a river you enter into, a circular way of living. Giving and receiving is of one piece, and at any moment, you could be doing either or both of them.
You won't lose a thing when you give. And you won't lose a thing when you receive. Scarcity does not exist, not really. The only thing that makes it true is the belief in it, and you can see that many believe in it because of how they live.
You won't lose anything if you reach out and ask for help, like your dignity. You risk something even greater than your image if you deny people the gift of giving to you: connection. Another fear in asking for help is that you'll be refused and rejected, turned away. Then not only will you be in need, but you'll also be lonely, and heartbroken, too. But friend, people who judge you for needing help are not your people. Connection, friendship, community, family... these are the pathways and tools of integration. Authentic connection only exists within the flow of giving AND receiving.
There is no shame in asking for help and accepting it. And some days, there is no other way to carry on than by reaching out and accepting the gift.
You were created to need other people. You were designed as a vessel that gives and receives. Human biology can only thrive within the context of giving and receiving, from the cellular to the emotional and all the way through to the physical.
(This post is an excerpt from The Practice Co App series called "Carry On, Warrior", available to download for iOS and Android! It includes daily devotionals, FREE Mindful Prompt notifications (no subscription needed), phone wallpapers and more. Start with a free trial or subscribe to get access to each new series as they come out.)
Mindful Prompt: Ask for what you need. Ask for help. This is not a weakness or an indictment on your capacity and ability. It shows great courage and strength, that you would live deeply into your inherent design of need, and that you integrate and connect and weave yours into the lives of others. Accept the mercy. Accept the help. It's not shameful, it is how you carry on.
Written by Liz Milani.
Instagram: @thepracticeco
* Hebrews 4:16, Matthew 10:41-42
